FIVE Steps to Getting Through a Miserable Day
It is OK not to be your best all the time. We all have those days. Days when we would rather watch Netflix all day and eat M&M's and Kettle Corn...(mixed together BTW).
Recharge. Restore. Renew.
How do you do that? Turn off the tech...well after you read this, and focus on what brings you joy. Here's Five simple things that will turn your day around.
If you look at some of the great masters, the great artists, like Rembrandt, at first, those paintings are black. They’re really dark, and they’re ugly. The beautiful thing about some of those old paintings, though, is they are really a study of light,
Which is so funny because most of the canvas is black.
If you start to look at them and notice the subtleties, however, you can see the very faint touches of light on the side of a face, on an arm, on a sleeve, or a piece of fabric. You start to notice the smaller things you could have missed. You would have never seen that gentle light if there wasn’t such darkness.
In life, there is always some light. Even in the darkest times, there is always something that you can find to hold onto and give you hope. One of the greatest things you can learn when you’ve been stripped down to nothing is that what’s left in front of you is often what’s most valuable. (click bird to Tweet quote)
If life has stripped you down to nothing, what do you have left? That’s what is most important. If you're too busy to see it, cut out anything that isn't a top priority today.
Start there today. Begin again. What’s left is where you need to focus.
Are you holding your breath? Stop that!
Take some deep breath's, through the nose and out the mouth. Count 3 in, 3 out until you feel your self relax. Stress has this awful side effect that causes some of us to hold our breath. I noticed it in the middle of the cluster, after our son's night in the ICU from binge drinking. I had to intentionally notice when I was holding my breath and force myself to breathe.If you haven't heard of the APP Headspace, check it out. 10 minutes could redirect your whole day. They have 'packs' with different themes and super handy SOS 3 minute breathing exercises.
Get out of the house, change your surroundings. Go outside, go to a coffee shop, stop in church and say a prayer. If you're at work, take a break and change your location. There's something about fluorescent lights that will make you a little nuts. Keeping yourself if one spot for too long isn't good for you. Endorphin's are neurotransmitters that make you feel good! Boost them naturally, go walk. 2o minutes of walking has a HUGE difference in your brain and how you will feel.
4. Find Joy
Its the small things. I'm sure you all saw the Chewbacca mom. Find joy, watch something funny, talk with an old friend, Oxytocin is secreted when you laugh or hug someone for a good long time. Another "happy' neurotransmitter'. Try taking that kid who is driving you nuts (maybe even out of school) and go out for ice cream. Sometimes our lives are so cluttered that we miss the small moments. We need to stop the full steam ahead craziness, and stop long enough to recognize the simple small golden nuggets in the day.
Look up! Notice what's in front of you.
5. Be Grateful.
One thing. All you need is one small thing to be grateful for. You may look around a see piles of mess, but that one bowl that made it to the sink, you can be grateful for one less on the counter. I hate laundry, 10 people in our family.... I reallllly hate laundry (and shoes, but we'll talk about that another time). A long time ago a mom who was about 10 years ahead of me in the family journey suggested that I pray for each child as I fold their clothes. She told me to pray for every aspect of their little lives; for their friendships, character, sadness, joys, and future. An attitude of gratefulness can change a morning of mess into a peace.
So GO! Take a break. BREATHE, MOVE. NOTICE. FIND JOY and BE GRATEFUL!
Recharge. Restore. Renew.
NOW it's ok to turn off the tech